Bondage Workshop (as replacement for Dasniya)

...lokki and Lun Ario ("nuvens") stepped in as replacement during Dasniya´s absence (Parsifal mise-en-céne) for the weekly bondage workshop. September 2010, January and February 2011. Thanks for the trust! credits: foto by Amaury Grisel .

News and Sugestions

(english below) Novidades e as vossas sugestões, aqui!!!!! De momento não há nada planeado, agradecemos sugestões e/ou convites. Há no entanto já algumas ideias a fermentar, ou mesmo já desenvolvidas, e que simplesmente esperam por um espaço ou um evento para acontecer. Curiosxs? Digam coisas! ...passing, tudo o que quis saber sobre SM e teve demasiada vergonha para perguntar, como fazer os próprios brinquedos sexuais, como organizar uma sex party (que corra bem), técnicas de engate, interculturalidade e migracao em contexto LGBT... --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- (english) News and Sugestions Nothing planned for the moment, but looking forward to suggestions and invitiations. In the forge are some ideas already, sometimes just looking for the right space, or the right event to take place. Curious? Drop us a line.

(Queer) Polystammtisch Berlin

Queer Poly Meetup in Berlin

(English below) QueerPolyBerlin: Encontro regular poly para mulheres e trans* em Berlin (De 4.10.10) Pessoas poly tem necessidade de se encontrar com outros que assim vivam ou se interessem pela ideia. A unicidades dos seus problemas, e a incapacidade de muitas vezes serem compreendidos pelos não-poly sao os grandes motores destes encontros. Em Berlim, começou a aparecer, em 2007, a necessidade não só de um grupo poly, mas de um grupo dirigido principalmente para mulheres e trans*, no geral de filosofia queer. Sendo assim, a Lisa e depois Rowin, fundaram e moderaram o polystammtisch-berlin@gmx.de, um encontro de poliamoristas mensal regular, e aberto, para mulheres e trans* queer. Desde ontem antidote modera a lista electrónica que o suporta.. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- (English) QueerPolyBerlin: Regular poly meet-up for women and trans* in Berlin (From 4.10.10) poly folks need to meet kindred spirits, in order to exchange ideas and find solutions in a more efficient way to usually very specific problems. Their unique problems, and the dificulty in being taken serious by the mainstream society is a a powerful motor to such meet-ups. In Berlin, Rown and Lisa have been moderating polystammtisch-berlin@gmx.de. , a regular poly meet-up for women and trans* since about 2007. Since yesterday antidote is taking care of the electronic list supporting it. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- (deutsch) Polystammtisch für Queer Frauen/Transgender (Berlin) Polyamouröser Frauen/Transgender-Stammtisch (Berlin) , Austausch über das Stricken an polyamourösen Beziehungsnetzen, so manche Laufmasche und die wunderschönen Muster, die sich ergeben können. Jeden 2. Mittwoch im Monat um 20:00,Silverfuture, Weserstr. 206 (das ist zwischen Pannierstr. und Nansenstr.), 12047 Berlin-Neukölln. Info und Kontakt: polystammtisch-berlin@gmx.de.

Queer and Kids, Berlin, meet-up for alternative parent* networks

(english and german below) Começa a haver um interesse cada vez maior, dentro ou fora de constelações poly, na criação de modelos alternativos familiares e de relação com "a gente pequena" ou crianças. Trata-se do desejo concreto, a longo prazo, de assumir parentalidades de crianças, em que haja mais do que um ou dois adultos envolvidos, e em que os papeis educadores sejam conscientemente assumidos e definidos e não sejam influenciados pelo género social ou pelo modo de vida. Para se começar a discutir possibilidades, para se criar uma rede de apoio, e para apoiar situações já existentes ou emergentes, criou-se recentemente em Berlim o grupo "queer com miúdos" (Queer mit Kind, em alemão) , de cuja organização eu faço parte. Extracto do manifesto: "Somos o grupo "queers com miúdos" (Aka parentalidades*), e somos um grupo de adultos, de background queer e de esquerda, que procuram criar um encontro para discussão e eventual intervenção na sociedade, acerca de modelos de educação alternativos, sua aplicação na sociedade, sua aceitação, bem como investigação das possibilidades de relações com os outros adultos envolvidos na educação de uma criança. Procuramos para isso outros queers radicais que desejem assumir parentalidade(s) numa perspectiva *concreta* e de longo prazo.." ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- (English) Interest is starting to grow aournd the topic alternative families, either among poly people or not. We mean here a sincere, long-term and responsible wish to rear children (aka "small people") in constelations with more than one or two adults, and where the role played by each educator is consciously self-chosen instead of stuff like social gender or lifestyle of the adults involved. In order to discuss what possibilities exist, to creat a self-support network, and to support and learn from already existing situations, the group "Queer with Kids" (Queer mit Kind, in german) was recently created in Berlin. A small extract from its manifest: "We are the Queer with Kids group (aka parents*) , and we are a group of queer and left-wing adults, who seek to create a meet-up for discussion, support and intervention on alternative education models, its application in society, its acceptance, as well as investigating what possibilities exist of relating to other adults involved in such education of children. Therefore we seek other queers who nurture the wish to assume a parent* role in a long term, concrete and responsible perspective. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- (german) Die Queere Elternschaften* Gruppe (Queer mit Kind) richtet sich an Menschen mit einem linken hersschaftskritischen und queeren Hintergrund, welche elternschaftliche Beziehungen zu jungen Menschen leben möchten

A small Q&A on polyamory, UEEH, Marseille

On the 23.July.10, already in the closing end of the UEEH, in Marseille, a small and spontaneous screening of the documentary "Vacations in Slutmeadow" (“Ferien in Schlampenau”) took place. Around 20 people showed up, and the session ended up as Q&A on the topics of polyamory, the need for networking that is almost automatic to all poly lifestyles, which was the motivation behind the organization of such a poly summercamp, and a small discussion on practical issues and its implementation. more about the camp (in portuguese): http://laundrylst.blogspot.com/2008/04/um-campo-de-frias-para-galdrias.html http://laundrylst.blogspot.com/2009/06/summercamp-poly-feminista-ferias-em.html more about the film "Vacations in Slutmeadow": http://lube-nomads.blogspot.com/2010/05/documentary-film-on-slutmeadowschlampen.html

Polyamory and Jealousy, UEEH, Marseille

Poly and Jealousy 22.July.2010 Marseille, UEEH antidote and Éskìw Whenever a polyamoury lifestyle is mentioned or considered, usually a lot of questions regarding jealousy pop up immediately.

But what is then this disruptive green-eyed monster? Do we all speak of the same thing when we mention jealousy? Do we know what it can put at stake? Are we susceptible to it? Do we have to deal with it? Do we know how to deal with it? And what about compersion? In this workshop there will not be universal or magical answers to those questions, but we will all be challenged to use the opportunity to find our own personal and tailored answers, with the help of the group. For this, we will sit together, try to analyse a couple of aspects in a simple and pragmatic way, suggest some tools, share our thoughts, and brainstorm together to help everybody find hir personal answer to such questions. No previous experience with polyamoury lifestyle is required.

daneben:subkultur für Frauen

member of Orga-team and soup slut for daneben, subkultur für Frauen (2007-2009)

Documentary (film) on Slutmeadow/Schlampenau

(german below) In 2007 the first ”Ferien in Schlampenau”, which roughly translates to “Vacations in Slut Meadow”, took place in Germany, becoming meanwhile a yearly feminist summer camp for women who challenge the concept of monogamy as the sole accepted relationship model. “Also unnatural women need rest”, said the invitation, “and to spend time with other sluts, away from the heteronormativity, exchanging experiences, discussing utopias or developing a new relationship culture.” In this DIY, no-budget film, word is given to four participants in Schlampenau and they speak about polyamory, the camp itself, feminism, queer identities and their dreams for the future. The film shows a sense of fight against alienation in a society where being a woman, polyamorous, feminist, queer or transgender is often misunderstood or outright repressed. The camp is revealed as a place of togetherness, freedom, discussion and fun. Ladies from all genders and gentlemen, welcome to Schlampenau. More on the film at the film´s blog: here (http:://polygarchutopia.blogspot.com) ! ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 2007 fand das erste "Ferien in Schlampenau, Sommercamp für unnatürliche Frauen" statt, dass inzwischen zu einer jährlichen Veranstaltung geworden ist. "Auch unnatürliche Frauen brauchen Erholung", stand in der Ankündigung, "einfach Zeit mit anderen Schlampen verbringen, fernab der Heteronormativität, um Erfahrungen auszutauschen, Utopien zu diskutieren oder gemeinsam eine neue Beziehungskultur zu entwickeln." Vier Teilnehmerinnen sprechen über Polyamorie, das Sommercamp, Feminismus, Queer Identitäten und ihre Träume für die Zukunft. Dieser do-it-yourself (and no budget) Dokumentarfilm zeigt einen Kampfgeist gegen die Entfremdung in einer Gesellschaft wo immer missverstanden oder unterdrückt wird, wenn man eine Frau, polyamorös, Feministin, queer oder transgender ist. Das Camp erscheint als ein Ort der Zusammengehörigkeit, der Freiheit, des Austausches und für Spass. Mehr darüber @ Blog zur Film: hier (http://polygarchutopia.blogspot.com).

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Don't rebuff your way to happiness, Manchester

Don't rebuff your way to happiness: a workshop on “Saying no”

29.5.2010, Manchester, at the SM Dykes Conference Lokki and Éskìw

Workshop Goals: to learn strategies to effectively communicate what you want (and understanding what you want), to learn strategies for expressing disagreement in a positive and constructive way, learning to say "no" with or without providing justifications.

Can we honestly say, about ourselves, that we say “no” on every occasion that we should? Hmmm, maybe not. Saying “no” is important, actually it’s vital, but saying “no” in the right situation can be very difficult. There are several mechanisms which make “saying no” quite difficult, like fear of rejection or retaliation, peer pressure, or even an entangled bundle of possible cultural reasons linked to expressing disagreement. We will look at issues such as how the dynamics can affect the negotiation process and the problem of being part of a small group and how being part of one can affect your ability to say no.

Practical exercise: a negotiation situation. Evaluation of the exercise (what went well and not so well, and why; strategies that work best). Presentation of some simple strategies for expressing disagreement and saying “no.”

Polyamory and Jealousy, Manchester

On green-eyed monsters, compersive teddies, and humans in-between (a workshop on jealousy in polyamourous constellations)

Lokki and Éskìw 29.May.10, Manchester, SM Dykes Conference

Whenever a polyamoury lifestyle is mentioned or considered, usually a lot of questions regarding jealousy pop up immediately.

But what is then this disruptive green-eyed monster? Do we all speak of the same thing when we mention jealousy? Do we know what it can put at stake? Are we susceptible to it? Do we have to deal with it? Do we know how to deal with it? And what about compersion?

In this workshop there will not be universal or magical answers to those questions, but we will all be challenged to use the opportunity to find our own personal and tailored answers, with the help of the group. For this, we will sit together, try to analyse a couple of aspects in a simple and pragmatic way, suggest some tools, share our thoughts, and brainstorm together to help everybody find hir personal answer to such questions.

No previous experience with polyamoury lifestyle is required.

Bondage 101, showing you safely the ropes. Berlin.

Bondage 101, showing you the ropes in a safe way 8.2.2010, Berlin, Be_Cunt party

This is meant as a very basic introduction to bondage for absolute beginers. A very significant part of it will be dedicated to considerations on material, your motivation for doing bondage, safety, negotiation, responsability. You will be encouraged to think and find out what suits you best, regarding the above mentioned topics. Only after you are scared to death after this frist phase, and correspondingly aware that some care must be taken when dealing with rope, we will look together, slowly and carefully, on the first approaches to *fun* with rope and what possibilities it offers. The techniques shown during the workshop will depend on the size of the group and its dynamic. References to more advanced bondage workhops, networking and bibliography, etc, will be provided.